Why do psychopaths, narcissists and toxic people have a reputation for being unfaithful in all their relationships? Probably because monsters have no sense of empathy, love or respect for life. Too simple for ya? Ok lets go a little deeper and really analyze this common question.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist will feel like a nightmare you can’t seem to wake from and yet we keep fighting to save it no matter how gloomy the future may seem. You will experience all sorts of panic and anxiety during the course of this toxic relationship which will only grow more toxic over time.
As things continue to decline, your anxiety will mutate into a feeling of dread that’s looming just around the corner. This feeling is something I refer to as narcissist impending doom.
With so many psychopath narcissists on the prowl, one has to wonder if they ever stumble across another psycho on their hunt for supply?
What happens when a psychopath dates another psychopath? Do narcissists actually date each other? How can this phenomena even manifest?
Truth is, it happens all the time. It’s inevitable. But not how you might think.
The past few years, we have seen a rise in the amount of information on narcissists and psychopaths like never before. More and more people are starting to become aware of narcissistic disorder while victims are openly coming out with their stories and seeking help.
The more awareness on psychopaths and narcissistic abuse is spread throughout the world, the more these predators are taking notice and counter striking in order to ensure their survival.
One of the tactics a psychopath uses to have the upper hand on their victims is to infiltrate their target’s society where they can extract information and destroy them from within their own safe places.
Let’s identify these narcissistic strategies so that we can be better prepared for their covert attacks.
If you have recently been discarded or dumped by your narcissist ex, then you are probably feeling exactly what most of their previous victims felt and what their future victims are guaranteed to experience in the near future; loneliness.
Besides the unrelenting confusion, anxiety and ptsd symptoms running a muck in your head pretty much all throughout your day, at some point you will experience a greater sense of loneliness and despair than perhaps you have ever felt in your life.
This feeling of what I’d like to call post narcissistic discard loneliness stems from all the drama, attention, battles, arguments, love bombing, intense sex, gas lighting, tantrums, lies, and nightmares you experienced while dating this monster. The entirety of it all, despite being an extremely toxic situation to be in, was overwhelming to say the least. So overwhelming in fact that life may seem a little less exciting now that the narcissist is gone.
However, this type of psychological torment takes time to understand and even more time to heal from. The loneliness you are feeling after being discarded by your narcissist ex is normal and it’s will eventually subside. It’s ok to temporarily feel this way, it’s all part of the process and things will get so much better in the months to come.
Despite your current feelings of loneliness, I promise you that once you heal from this trauma and regain your strength and power back, you will deem this discard as the best thing that could’ve happened to you because the alternative would have you STILL BEING IN A RELATIONSHIT WITH THE NARCISSIST. (that’s not a typo)
After being discarded by a narcissist or psychopath, most victims obsessively wonder if their ex is actually better off without them. It’s a common curiosity to have especially in the condition that the narcissist leave their victims in; sometimes questioning their own validity or purpose in this world.
While this type of question can be of a subjective matter, many people feel that only the extreme, machine like Terminator-type of psychopath is legitimately better off without you after making their calculated decision that continuing to have you in their life would not benefit them in any way.
These types of psychopaths are on a clear cut mission and get no value in torturing you for fun or boredom because they have much larger, global scale type of goals and probably saw you as a temporary asset. Once they got what they needed, they discarded you the same way we discard a scented candle once it’s been completely burned out and useless to us.
It seems to me in recent times, the term gaslighting has been receiving a lot more buzz than ever before. Or maybe it’s just my RAS (reticular activating system) focusing on anything and everything relating to psychopaths and narcissistic abuse. Either way this is a term I had never heard of in my life until I got out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist.
I still remember the first time my mentor explained to me what gaslighting was after I had given him details of all the things my psychopath ex would do to me.
It was fascinating to learn that there was an actual term for this type of wicked behavior, making it much easier to explain the level of psychological horror I had experienced while dating my narcissist ex.
So your friend is dating a psychopath narcissist?
Hold on tight. We’re in for a ride.
Here’s a scenario every survivor of narcissistic abuse will come across at some point or another, but most likely sooner than you think.
It’s the inevitable situation we’ve all found ourselves in not long after solving one of our biggest challenges or learning something of excellence that forever altered our lives for the better.
It’s the old time tested urge to tell everybody else what we’ve learned and how they should try things OUR way because it’ll be so much better for them.
In this case we are talking about a situation where our friend is dating a psychopath narcissist but they just won’t listen to our words of advice nor will they take any action in positioning themselves for a preemptive escape.
Victims of psychopathic and narcissistic abuse (the many) who have healed, recovered and risen above the darkness (the few) develop a keen instinct to spot narcissists a mile away.
It’s like we are given a new pair of glasses which allow us to see behind the mask and facade these toxic creatures masquerade under.
Reaching this level of mastery can take many months or even years of relentless education on the subject, strict discipline in sustaining the No Contact Rule, and a never ending spree of self validating stances and actions against anyone who even comes close to crossing your newly established boundaries.
Psychopath narcissists love torturing you while they’re a part of your life but even when they’re gone, their poison is still left inside of you, crawling thru your mind like a cancer, warping your every thought and making even the simplest of tasks a nightmare to accomplish.
To the psychopath narcissist, you are just another victim left to decay after being sucked dry of your life force; much like a vampire will leave their prey to rot after feeding on their blood.
Narcissists are predators that feed on your energy, rape your mind and steal your soul. While you are in a relationship with them, you are slowly being poison dripped, gradually molded and groomed into a state of complete hypnosis where you can’t even realize the harm being done to you. Continue reading “Being DISCARDED by a Psychopath Narcissist FEELS like DEATH”