Years after our relationship with the psychopath ends, we are still left with a fear and anxiety inducing uncertainty that if we were to ever run into our narcissist ex again or get involved with another toxic person, that we would suffer thru the same torment and psychological torture all over again.
In the past we never had the confidence or ability of calling out the narcissist and instead would enable them more and somehow ignore our intuition and convince ourselves that they were innocent. This questionable behavior was most likely developed thru the psychopath’s many tools of manipulation such as gaslighting.
And although we eventually got out of the toxic relationship either thru narcissist discard or we summoned the courage to terminate it ourselves, the damage was done and we were left with a psychological trauma unlike no other that had us crippled and disconnected from our true selves.
So we relived the traumatic experience everyday of our lives and after much reading about narcissistic personality disorder, psychopaths and sociopaths, we expressed our anger and rage to our friends and loved ones and swore we would not stay quiet if we ever had the chance to see those monsters again. We swore revenge and raved about all the things we would say if we were in their presence again or if any future narcissists ever tried to cross us.
But after the anger passed and the adrenaline settled, we were once again left with our trauma and haunted memories. This is because the brain needs proof, not promise. The brain will always remember what it experienced and what stimulated it most. In our case it was a relationship with a psychopath narcissist monster.
So it doesn’t matter how much we talk to ourselves in front of the mirror about what we wish we would’ve done or what we are going to do. What matters is the actual right action we take and how we actually respond when faced with another narcissistic relationship or when dealing with a toxic person.
This of course takes much courage and resolve but the payoff is incredible.
Imagine how empowered you would feel if you saw yourself calling out the narcissist and standing up for yourself when that monster tried to take advantage of you and toyed with your emotions? Imagine if you took that same attitude and applied it to all areas of life such as actually going to the gym, sticking to that diet, starting that side hustle, finishing that project, etc. All of this sounds great in our head but if we don’t take the action when the situation arises and calls for it, we will continue living in a world of fear and hesitation.
Remember the brain needs proof not promise. So how do we prove our brain that we are capable of doing the things we know we should do whether it’s calling out the narcissist, arguing back with someone who is clearly trying to dismiss our truth, standing up for ourselves when we are being bullied or manipulated?
We do it by holding ourselves accountable and rather than over thinking everything, we just DO THE THINGS whether we feel like it or not. We do not entertain fear or failure. We just do the work and deal with the outcome or consequences as they arise.
The reason psychopath narcissists are able to completely obliterate their victims is because they take the time to weaken their will power and distort their reality.
This is how they infiltrate and destroy.
But now we are equipped with knowledge, experience and tools we didn’t have before. Now the situation will be different for the narcissist because no longer will we sit around and be taken for a ride. No longer will we ignore our gut intuition and swallow our words for fear of the narcissist. From now on we prove to the Brain that we will stand up for ourselves against narcissist and call them out immediately when they try to mess with us.
Once the brain has the actual proof that we have conquered a fearful situation, it will no longer fear it again. It will instead view the situation in a new light and the confidence shall grow from there. This is how we develop the courage to conquer our fears. This is how we rewire our brain to fuel us with positive reinforcing thoughts instead of the usual anxiety inducing self limiting thoughts. And this is how we eliminate the anxiety triggered from memories of the narcissist that continue to exist in our minds long after they are gone.
From now on, we call out the narcissist or toxic person whenever they do something to us that is unacceptable. Immediately. We do not hesitate nor give them the benefit of the doubt. We take action against the narcissist. We stand up for ourselves and what we know is right. Only thru right action can we prove to our brain that we will be ok. Anything else is just theory and empty promises.
ARE YOU A VICTIM OF A PSYCHOPATH NARCISSIST?
Narcissist abuse is a perpetual nightmare not many can wake up from. The anxiety, trauma and PTSD can last a lifetime if one does not properly cut ties with their psychopathic tormentor and follow through with a specific plan for recovery.
However, this path can be a mystery to most victims of narcissists who’ve been discarded and dismantled. That’s why I’ve put together a step-by-step guide that will show you how to take the first step in establishing boundaries between you and your abuser. Study this guide carefully and do exactly what it says, especially if you have been recently discarded and left to rot by your narcissist ex.
These were the first instructions my mentor gave me back when I too was in hell; gasping for air from the suffocating panic and bed ridden anxiety my psychopath ex had left me in. I followed his guidance to the tee and instantly felt life breathing back into my soul… as will YOU when you follow these easy steps.
The information in this guide is crucial to your mental health and recovery. Do not hesitate or risk another minute of your life drifting into oblivion at the hands of a psychopath narcissist.
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Thank you for your help 😊 I don’t have a lot of money but i would like to arrange a zoom call… have just had 1st experience with a narcissist and iam 77 I met him when I was 70..and lucky for me he only had sex with me once…we lived in same block of flats..when he devalued me he started flaunting his new supply knowing g how to hurt me..I left the flat I had lived in for 12 Years and moved miles away but.I. missed my friends and my AA meetings..so after a year away & healing and somewhat stronger & wiser iam returning to my old building BUT I am scared of bumping into him I don’t want to see him I know what sick games he will do like gossIping about me but I have to be strong & take up my friends &find new interests…hope you get to read this thank you so very much Joan in uk