If you have recently been discarded or dumped by your narcissist ex, then you are probably feeling exactly what most of their previous victims felt and what their future victims are guaranteed to experience in the near future; loneliness.
Besides the unrelenting confusion, anxiety and ptsd symptoms running a muck in your head pretty much all throughout your day, at some point you will experience a greater sense of loneliness and despair than perhaps you have ever felt in your life.
This feeling of what I’d like to call post narcissistic discard loneliness stems from all the drama, attention, battles, arguments, love bombing, intense sex, gas lighting, tantrums, lies, and nightmares you experienced while dating this monster. The entirety of it all, despite being an extremely toxic situation to be in, was overwhelming to say the least. So overwhelming in fact that life may seem a little less exciting now that the narcissist is gone.
However, this type of psychological torment takes time to understand and even more time to heal from. The loneliness you are feeling after being discarded by your narcissist ex is normal and it’s will eventually subside. It’s ok to temporarily feel this way, it’s all part of the process and things will get so much better in the months to come.
Despite your current feelings of loneliness, I promise you that once you heal from this trauma and regain your strength and power back, you will deem this discard as the best thing that could’ve happened to you because the alternative would have you STILL BEING IN A RELATIONSHIT WITH THE NARCISSIST. (that’s not a typo)
However, be warned that the narcissist knows you are feeling lonely after the discard and they anticipate your loneliness will lead you to turn back to them for help. It’s like the Stockholm syndrome where the victim feels their tormentors are the only ones that can heal them from the very same pain they are creating.
This is the Narcissist’s Trap.
If you can’t handle the feelings of loneliness right now and you are tempted to contact your narcissist ex, you are inviting an even greater doom into your current state of misery. It’s like the drug addict or alcoholic who cannot handle the withdrawal symptoms so they turn back to the very same substance that caused their demise.
If you’re feeling loneliness after being discarded by a narcissist the best thing to do is to get out of the house and surround yourself with friends, family and/or loved ones. Get out into nature. Take walks in the park where there are a lot of people. Yes it might still feel lonely to see all those people enjoying themselves but that’s a lot healthier than isolating at home alone in unstable conditions.
While I’m not one to ever condone vices, this might be a good time to treat yourself to a nice dinner, book that vacation you always wanted to go on, or responsibly shop for those shoes you’ve had your eye on for a while. The brain needs to be stimulated with happy feelings. It’s been deprived of dopamine after the narcissist stopped their love bombing tactics and began devaluing your every existence.
It’s ok to go to a movie by yourself or a concert, or spend a quite evening at the bookstore. Perhaps a day at the spa sounds intriguing. Get a make over. Change your wardrobe. It’s time to rebuild what the narcissist destroyed and rise out of the darkness into a whole new world of light, love, and excitement!
Next time you are feeling lonely after being discarded by your narcissist ex, remember that:
- It’s normal to feel this way after the discard phase.
- The intense loneliness will subside with time as you grow and heal from this toxic experience.
- In this vulnerable state, you must be sure NOT to have ANY contact with the narcissist or they will continue to prey on your emotions.
ARE YOU A VICTIM OF A PSYCHOPATH NARCISSIST?
Narcissist abuse is a perpetual nightmare not many can wake up from. The anxiety, trauma and PTSD can last a lifetime if one does not properly cut ties with their psychopathic tormentor and follow through with a specific plan for recovery.
However, this path can be a mystery to most victims of narcissists who’ve been discarded and dismantled. That’s why I’ve put together a step-by-step guide that will show you how to take the first step in establishing boundaries between you and your abuser. Study this guide carefully and do exactly what it says, especially if you have been recently discarded and left to rot by your narcissist ex.
These were the first instructions my mentor gave me back when I too was in hell; gasping for air from the suffocating panic and bed ridden anxiety my psychopath ex had left me in. I followed his guidance to the tee and instantly felt life breathing back into my soul… as will YOU when you follow these easy steps.
The information in this guide is crucial to your mental health and recovery. Do not hesitate or risk another minute of your life drifting into oblivion at the hands of a psychopath narcissist.
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