Why do psychopaths, narcissists and toxic people have a reputation for being unfaithful in all their relationships? Probably because monsters have no sense of empathy, love or respect for life. Too simple for ya? Ok lets go a little deeper and really analyze this common question.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist will feel like a nightmare you can’t seem to wake from and yet we keep fighting to save it no matter how gloomy the future may seem. You will experience all sorts of panic and anxiety during the course of this toxic relationship which will only grow more toxic over time.
As things continue to decline, your anxiety will mutate into a feeling of dread that’s looming just around the corner. This feeling is something I refer to as narcissist impending doom.
When dealing with a toxic psychopath or narcissist, you will be faced with many unexplained and unacceptable behavior that will no doubt cause you great torment and grief. One of the ways a psychopath tortures their victims is thru random narcissist ghosting. Random to the untrained person, but a textbook and predictable maneuver to a seasoned and fully recovered victim of narcissism.
In this article we are going to dive deep into the motivations that drive a psychopath to ghost you and why it is so effective in hurting the victim.
Narcissists withhold sex from their partners as a form of manipulation and control. It’s a textbook narcissistic abuse mechanism that will slowly but surely drive you crazy and crush your self esteem.
When the psychopath narcissist starts withholding sex from their partners, they have most likely already groomed and secured their new source of supply and have already made up their minds that they are done with you. From now on, they will continue withholding sex and devaluing your worth; their is no going back now.
Let’s go over the reasons why a psychopath narcissist stops having sex with you and what actions you can take to get thru this horrible phase in your toxic relationshit.
With so many psychopath narcissists on the prowl, one has to wonder if they ever stumble across another psycho on their hunt for supply?
What happens when a psychopath dates another psychopath? Do narcissists actually date each other? How can this phenomena even manifest?
Truth is, it happens all the time. It’s inevitable. But not how you might think.
It’s been well studied and documented that highly effective female narcissists and psychopaths target alpha males for top narcissistic supply and access to the better things in life.
Chances are you if you’ve been targeted by a female narcissist, it’s because you are a high quality man and have much to offer a woman.
However, this doesn’t necessarily mean that they will overlook a beta male if they feel they can extract enough narcissistic supply out of them as well.
Let’s take a look at the 3 most common ways a beta male provider gets used by a female narcissist or psychopath.
Getting closure from a psychopath is a feat not many can achieve for it is an unrealistic accomplishment considering the facts. You have a better chance at spotting a shooting star, remembering to make a wish and that wish actually coming true.
However despite the near impossible odds, there really is a way to get closure from a narcissist or psychopath. It’s just not the type of closure you are used to or the one you feel you deserve.
Well first of all, what exactly is closure?
Closure is when both parties can honestly say they parted ways from each other and achieved some sort of finality from the relationship. There are no loose ends or reasons to look back anymore.
Among normal healthy human beings, even when a marriage or relationship is severed in bad terms, BOTH parties need that sense of closure in order to move on with their lives and they both tend to help each other achieve it.
Since there was actually love in that relationship, it’s not difficult to give each other the closure and blessings along their way.
But this is not something that’s achievable when dealing with a psychopath and they know this too well so they use that need against you.
If you truly want to get closure from a narcissist or psychopath ex there are a few things you will need to understand.
Here’s a little story about a girl named Meryl. She was a textbook female narcissist / psychopath who was fascinated with snakes and even identified as someone with similar personality traits as those of a snake.
She once traveled to a distant land to have a special snake tattoo inked on her back from a popular artist whom she obviously cheated on her partner with, but that’s a given considering the nature of the female narcissist.
Meryl boasted about her incel guy friends who would do things for her including driving her to and from work, paying for her meals, buying her expensive gifts, etc.
There was even one fellow who let her live in his parent’s guest room, rent free for almost a year. This poor young lad thought of himself as a snake charmer because, in his poisoned mind, he felt he had tamed and charmed the wretched narcissistic serpentine herself.
The irony of the story is how Meryl would go around spreading smear campaigns about this kid behind his back and with a cynical laugh would mock his self imposed “snake charmer” title.
The truth is, Meryl had been the true charmer in this story and like a double agent, had been playing the role of BOTH the snake AND the snake charmer.
Female narcissists are only after one thing: The highest level resource of narcissistic supply.
This means, they will target the man with the greatest potential of providing them with everything they want or need in order to arrive at their goals.
This usually includes, money, fame, status, shelter, skill sets, discipline, knowledge, etc… and of course great sex (although female narcissists are known to use sex as a bargaining tool and will take it away as a form of torture and punishment at any given moment.)
Female narcissists, like most women, are very attracted to a man who possesses all of these assets, especially one with charm, confidence, and oozing with masculinity; The Alpha Male.
Alpha males are the female narcissists’ primary targets for they can extract the most narcissistic supply from them while experiencing an incredible life and feeling totally satisfied in the bedroom (until it’s time to devalue and discard their victim as per their default disordered programming.)
So where does the beta male fit into all this? Why do white knight beta males fall prey to the female narcissist or psychopath?
It seems to me in recent times, the term gaslighting has been receiving a lot more buzz than ever before. Or maybe it’s just my RAS (reticular activating system) focusing on anything and everything relating to psychopaths and narcissistic abuse. Either way this is a term I had never heard of in my life until I got out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist.
I still remember the first time my mentor explained to me what gaslighting was after I had given him details of all the things my psychopath ex would do to me.
It was fascinating to learn that there was an actual term for this type of wicked behavior, making it much easier to explain the level of psychological horror I had experienced while dating my narcissist ex.