Being in a relationship with a narcissist will feel like a nightmare you can’t seem to wake from and yet we keep fighting to save it no matter how gloomy the future may seem. You will experience all sorts of panic and anxiety during the course of this toxic relationship which will only grow more toxic over time.
As things continue to decline, your anxiety will mutate into a feeling of dread that’s looming just around the corner. This feeling is something I refer to as narcissist impending doom.
When dealing with a toxic psychopath or narcissist, you will be faced with many unexplained and unacceptable behavior that will no doubt cause you great torment and grief. One of the ways a psychopath tortures their victims is thru random narcissist ghosting. Random to the untrained person, but a textbook and predictable maneuver to a seasoned and fully recovered victim of narcissism.
In this article we are going to dive deep into the motivations that drive a psychopath to ghost you and why it is so effective in hurting the victim.
Getting closure from a psychopath is a feat not many can achieve for it is an unrealistic accomplishment considering the facts. You have a better chance at spotting a shooting star, remembering to make a wish and that wish actually coming true.
However despite the near impossible odds, there really is a way to get closure from a narcissist or psychopath. It’s just not the type of closure you are used to or the one you feel you deserve.
Well first of all, what exactly is closure?
Closure is when both parties can honestly say they parted ways from each other and achieved some sort of finality from the relationship. There are no loose ends or reasons to look back anymore.
Among normal healthy human beings, even when a marriage or relationship is severed in bad terms, BOTH parties need that sense of closure in order to move on with their lives and they both tend to help each other achieve it.
Since there was actually love in that relationship, it’s not difficult to give each other the closure and blessings along their way.
But this is not something that’s achievable when dealing with a psychopath and they know this too well so they use that need against you.
If you truly want to get closure from a narcissist or psychopath ex there are a few things you will need to understand.
Female narcissists are only after one thing: The highest level resource of narcissistic supply.
This means, they will target the man with the greatest potential of providing them with everything they want or need in order to arrive at their goals.
This usually includes, money, fame, status, shelter, skill sets, discipline, knowledge, etc… and of course great sex (although female narcissists are known to use sex as a bargaining tool and will take it away as a form of torture and punishmentat any given moment.)
Female narcissists, like most women, are very attracted to a man who possesses all of these assets, especially one with charm, confidence, and oozing with masculinity; The Alpha Male.
Alpha males are the female narcissists’ primary targets for they can extract the most narcissistic supply from them while experiencing an incredible life and feeling totally satisfied in the bedroom (until it’s time to devalue and discard their victim as per their default disordered programming.)
So where does the beta male fit into all this? Why do white knight beta males fall prey to the female narcissist or psychopath?
It seems to me in recent times, the term gaslighting has been receiving a lot more buzz than ever before. Or maybe it’s just my RAS (reticular activating system) focusing on anything and everything relating to psychopaths and narcissistic abuse. Either way this is a term I had never heard of in my life until I got out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist.
I still remember the first time my mentor explained to me what gaslighting was after I had given him details of all the things my psychopath ex would do to me.
It was fascinating to learn that there was an actual term for this type of wicked behavior, making it much easier to explain the level of psychological horror I had experienced while dating my narcissist ex.
Victims of psychopathic and narcissistic abuse (the many) who have healed, recovered and risen above the darkness (the few) develop a keen instinct to spot narcissists a mile away.
It’s like we are given a new pair of glasses which allow us to see behind the mask and facade these toxic creatures masquerade under.
Reaching this level of mastery can take many months or even years of relentless education on the subject, strict discipline in sustaining the No Contact Rule, and a never ending spree of self validating stances and actions against anyone who even comes close to crossing your newly established boundaries.
Psychopath Narcissists look like normal human beings on the outside, but don’t be fooled. On the inside they are soulless monsters incapable of feeling normal human emotions like Love and Empathy and for obvious reasons, do not operate like normal human beings.
They are disordered individuals, forever angry and resentful at the world and at themselves. Since they cannot feel any sort of empathy towards another human being, they do not understand why it is that some of their actions cause others pain and grief.
In time they learn to use this lack of empathy as a form of power and control over normal human beings and are able to get away with immoral acts in order to rise to the top of the corporate world or reach Hollywood fame, crushing anyone in their path without a trace of guilt or remorse.Continue reading “Why Do Psychopath Narcissists TORTURE Their Partners?”