Why do psychopaths, narcissists and toxic people have a reputation for being unfaithful in all their relationships? Probably because monsters have no sense of empathy, love or respect for life. Too simple for ya? Ok lets go a little deeper and really analyze this common question.
Being in a relationship with a narcissist will feel like a nightmare you can’t seem to wake from and yet we keep fighting to save it no matter how gloomy the future may seem. You will experience all sorts of panic and anxiety during the course of this toxic relationship which will only grow more toxic over time.
As things continue to decline, your anxiety will mutate into a feeling of dread that’s looming just around the corner. This feeling is something I refer to as narcissist impending doom.
When dealing with a toxic psychopath or narcissist, you will be faced with many unexplained and unacceptable behavior that will no doubt cause you great torment and grief. One of the ways a psychopath tortures their victims is thru random narcissist ghosting. Random to the untrained person, but a textbook and predictable maneuver to a seasoned and fully recovered victim of narcissism.
In this article we are going to dive deep into the motivations that drive a psychopath to ghost you and why it is so effective in hurting the victim.
Getting closure from a psychopath is a feat not many can achieve for it is an unrealistic accomplishment considering the facts. You have a better chance at spotting a shooting star, remembering to make a wish and that wish actually coming true.
However despite the near impossible odds, there really is a way to get closure from a narcissist or psychopath. It’s just not the type of closure you are used to or the one you feel you deserve.
Well first of all, what exactly is closure?
Closure is when both parties can honestly say they parted ways from each other and achieved some sort of finality from the relationship. There are no loose ends or reasons to look back anymore.
Among normal healthy human beings, even when a marriage or relationship is severed in bad terms, BOTH parties need that sense of closure in order to move on with their lives and they both tend to help each other achieve it.
Since there was actually love in that relationship, it’s not difficult to give each other the closure and blessings along their way.
But this is not something that’s achievable when dealing with a psychopath and they know this too well so they use that need against you.
If you truly want to get closure from a narcissist or psychopath ex there are a few things you will need to understand.
If you have recently been discarded or dumped by your narcissist ex, then you are probably feeling exactly what most of their previous victims felt and what their future victims are guaranteed to experience in the near future; loneliness.
Besides the unrelenting confusion, anxiety and ptsd symptoms running a muck in your head pretty much all throughout your day, at some point you will experience a greater sense of loneliness and despair than perhaps you have ever felt in your life.
This feeling of what I’d like to call post narcissistic discard loneliness stems from all the drama, attention, battles, arguments, love bombing, intense sex, gas lighting, tantrums, lies, and nightmares you experienced while dating this monster. The entirety of it all, despite being an extremely toxic situation to be in, was overwhelming to say the least. So overwhelming in fact that life may seem a little less exciting now that the narcissist is gone.
However, this type of psychological torment takes time to understand and even more time to heal from. The loneliness you are feeling after being discarded by your narcissist ex is normal and it’s will eventually subside. It’s ok to temporarily feel this way, it’s all part of the process and things will get so much better in the months to come.
Despite your current feelings of loneliness, I promise you that once you heal from this trauma and regain your strength and power back, you will deem this discard as the best thing that could’ve happened to you because the alternative would have you STILL BEING IN A RELATIONSHIT WITH THE NARCISSIST. (that’s not a typo)
After being discarded by a narcissist or psychopath, most victims obsessively wonder if their ex is actually better off without them. It’s a common curiosity to have especially in the condition that the narcissist leave their victims in; sometimes questioning their own validity or purpose in this world.
While this type of question can be of a subjective matter, many people feel that only the extreme, machine like Terminator-type of psychopath is legitimately better off without you after making their calculated decision that continuing to have you in their life would not benefit them in any way.
These types of psychopaths are on a clear cut mission and get no value in torturing you for fun or boredom because they have much larger, global scale type of goals and probably saw you as a temporary asset. Once they got what they needed, they discarded you the same way we discard a scented candle once it’s been completely burned out and useless to us.
Psychopath narcissists love torturing you while they’re a part of your life but even when they’re gone, their poison is still left inside of you, crawling thru your mind like a cancer, warping your every thought and making even the simplest of tasks a nightmare to accomplish.
To the psychopath narcissist, you are just another victim left to decay after being sucked dry of your life force; much like a vampire will leave their prey to rot after feeding on their blood.
Narcissists are predators that feed on your energy, rape your mind and steal your soul. While you are in a relationship with them, you are slowly being poison dripped, gradually molded and groomed into a state of complete hypnosis where you can’t even realize the harm being done to you. Continue reading “Being DISCARDED by a Psychopath Narcissist FEELS like DEATH”