Years after our relationship with the psychopath ends, we are still left with a fear and anxiety inducing uncertainty that if we were to ever run into our narcissist ex again or get involved with another toxic person, that we would suffer thru the same torment and psychological torture all over again.
In the past we never had the confidence or ability of calling out the narcissist and instead would enable them more and somehow ignore our intuition and convince ourselves that they were innocent. This questionable behavior was most likely developed thru the psychopath’s many tools of manipulation such as gaslighting.
Victims of psychopathic and narcissistic abuse (the many) who have healed, recovered and risen above the darkness (the few) develop a keen instinct to spot narcissists a mile away.
It’s like we are given a new pair of glasses which allow us to see behind the mask and facade these toxic creatures masquerade under.
Reaching this level of mastery can take many months or even years of relentless education on the subject, strict discipline in sustaining the No Contact Rule, and a never ending spree of self validating stances and actions against anyone who even comes close to crossing your newly established boundaries.