Female narcissists are only after one thing: The highest level resource of narcissistic supply.
This means, they will target the man with the greatest potential of providing them with everything they want or need in order to arrive at their goals.
This usually includes, money, fame, status, shelter, skill sets, discipline, knowledge, etc… and of course great sex (although female narcissists are known to use sex as a bargaining tool and will take it away as a form of torture and punishmentat any given moment.)
Female narcissists, like most women, are very attracted to a man who possesses all of these assets, especially one with charm, confidence, and oozing with masculinity; The Alpha Male.
Alpha males are the female narcissists’ primary targets for they can extract the most narcissistic supply from them while experiencing an incredible life and feeling totally satisfied in the bedroom (until it’s time to devalue and discard their victim as per their default disordered programming.)
So where does the beta male fit into all this? Why do white knight beta males fall prey to the female narcissist or psychopath?
It seems to me in recent times, the term gaslighting has been receiving a lot more buzz than ever before. Or maybe it’s just my RAS (reticular activating system) focusing on anything and everything relating to psychopaths and narcissistic abuse. Either way this is a term I had never heard of in my life until I got out of a toxic relationship with a narcissist.
I still remember the first time my mentor explained to me what gaslighting was after I had given him details of all the things my psychopath ex would do to me.
It was fascinating to learn that there was an actual term for this type of wicked behavior, making it much easier to explain the level of psychological horror I had experienced while dating my narcissist ex.
Here’s a scenario every survivor of narcissistic abuse will come across at some point or another, but most likely sooner than you think.
It’s the inevitable situation we’ve all found ourselves in not long after solving one of our biggest challenges or learning something of excellence that forever altered our lives for the better.
It’s the old time tested urge to tell everybody else what we’ve learned and how they should try things OUR way because it’ll be so much better for them.
In this case we are talking about a situation where our friend is dating a psychopath narcissist but they just won’t listen to our words of advice nor will they take any action in positioning themselves for a preemptive escape.
Victims of psychopathic and narcissistic abuse (the many) who have healed, recovered and risen above the darkness (the few) develop a keen instinct to spot narcissists a mile away.
It’s like we are given a new pair of glasses which allow us to see behind the mask and facade these toxic creatures masquerade under.
Reaching this level of mastery can take many months or even years of relentless education on the subject, strict discipline in sustaining the No Contact Rule, and a never ending spree of self validating stances and actions against anyone who even comes close to crossing your newly established boundaries.