Getting closure from a psychopath is a feat not many can achieve for it is an unrealistic accomplishment considering the facts. You have a better chance at spotting a shooting star, remembering to make a wish and that wish actually coming true.
However despite the near impossible odds, there really is a way to get closure from a narcissist or psychopath. It’s just not the type of closure you are used to or the one you feel you deserve.
Well first of all, what exactly is closure?
Closure is when both parties can honestly say they parted ways from each other and achieved some sort of finality from the relationship. There are no loose ends or reasons to look back anymore.
Among normal healthy human beings, even when a marriage or relationship is severed in bad terms, BOTH parties need that sense of closure in order to move on with their lives and they both tend to help each other achieve it.
Since there was actually love in that relationship, it’s not difficult to give each other the closure and blessings along their way.
But this is not something that’s achievable when dealing with a psychopath and they know this too well so they use that need against you.
If you truly want to get closure from a narcissist or psychopath ex there are a few things you will need to understand.
- The psychopath narcissist will purposely rob you from closure as yet another form of torture and punishment for any type of narcissistic injuries they experienced while in relationship with you.
- You will be mocked for asking such things from them and will look weak in their eyes.
- Whatever type of closure or explanation you expect to get from them will be a word salad of confusing and trauma infusing lies that will only hurt you deeper.
- The psychopath will test you and manipulate the situation to where instead of you wanting closure, you will want THEM back in your life.
If the narcissist feels that you are ready to move on they will make it a point to prove to you and to themselves that you still NEED them. This is how they test your will and resolve.
At this point you can expect another layer of manipulation and dark negotiations which will blind side you and set you back so far it will feel like you are starting over.
In order to pass the psychopath’s test, one has to maintain the course and not only avoid asking them for closure, but avoid communicating with them as much as possible. Once the relationship is over, NO CONTACT must be established.
Remember your psychopath ex has already groomed their new victim, long before the two of you broke up. They are not sad, lonely or despaired at the severing of your relationship and chances are, you were unexpectedly discarded.
So what type of closure from a narcissist can we truly expect to receive?
The only real closure you expect to get from a psychopath or narcissist is the closure you make for yourself by understanding and accepting that you were dating or married to a monster and that relationship was never real.
This may not be the answer you were hoping to hear but it’s the one that will speed up the healing process and give you back the honor, self respect, and validation you deserve for surviving such a nightmare.
This piece of information has been vital for many victims and serves as the turning point where one finally lets go of their tormentor and closes off the doors to them forever.
This is why it’s imperative that we continue to educate ourselves on how these predators operate, understand their disorder, and learn to recognize their behavioral patterns.
Only then can we build the strength and confidence we need to protect ourselves from these toxic individuals and begin taking back our lives!
ARE YOU A VICTIM OF A PSYCHOPATH NARCISSIST?
Narcissist abuse is a perpetual nightmare not many can wake up from. The anxiety, trauma and PTSD can last a lifetime if one does not properly cut ties with their psychopathic tormentor and follow through with a specific plan for recovery.
However, this path can be a mystery to most victims of narcissists who’ve been discarded and dismantled. That’s why I’ve put together a step-by-step guide that will show you how to take the first step in establishing boundaries between you and your abuser. Study this guide carefully and do exactly what it says, especially if you have been recently discarded and left to rot by your narcissist ex.
These were the first instructions my mentor gave me back when I too was in hell; gasping for air from the suffocating panic and bed ridden anxiety my psychopath ex had left me in. I followed his guidance to the tee and instantly felt life breathing back into my soul… as will YOU when you follow these easy steps.
The information in this guide is crucial to your mental health and recovery. Do not hesitate or risk another minute of your life drifting into oblivion at the hands of a psychopath narcissist.
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