Narcissist Withholding SEX – Why The Narcissist Stops Having Sex With You

Narcissists withhold sex from their partners as a form of manipulation and control. It’s a textbook narcissistic abuse mechanism that will slowly but surely drive you crazy and crush your self esteem.

When the psychopath narcissist starts withholding sex from their partners, they have most likely already groomed and secured their new source of supply and have already made up their minds that they are done with you. From now on, they will continue withholding sex and devaluing your worth; their is no going back now

Let’s go over the reasons why a psychopath narcissist stops having sex with you and what actions you can take to get thru this horrible phase in your toxic relationshit.

Remember that all narcissists follow pretty much the same patterns. 

In the beginning stages of a toxic relationship with a psychopath narcissist, everything is absolutely amazing especially the sex and intimacy between both partners. I would go as far as saying, especially the sex.

This is the love bombing idealization phase. During this phase you are being groomed by the narcissist and becoming conditioned to their extra attention and admiration of you. They are highly sexual towards you and come off as sexual nymphs.

This can be very enticing to anyone at first and it’s easy to fall in love with all that praise and warm attention. Sex with a narcissist can be the best you ever had in your life and you will have plenty of it. You will become addicted and dependent on the sex and will be amazed at how you ever attracted such a hot and heavy partner. 

This is what the psychopath hopes you will believe and this how we fall for their trap.

Now is when things get crazy. After a few months of this amazing sex, love and admiration, you will start noticing a change in your partner. It will come slow but not slow enough where your gut doesn’t notice something is wrong. This is purposely orchestrated in order to create anxiety and a sense of impending doom. All part of the narcissist’s handbook. 

The psychopath narcissist will now start withholding sex from you more and more often. They will not be in the mood anymore, or will barely be into it. You will feel as if they are thinking of someone else and are not fully present with you. The sex will no longer feel hot and wild but instead, sex with the narcissist will feel disconnected and cold. They will say things during the act that are buzz killers and will plant seeds in your head that they might be cheating on you.

The psychopath narcissist always cheats on their partners so your intuition is correct.

The excuses will no longer make sense after a while and you will soon start arguing with them about how they are withholding sex from you. They will deny it and randomly tease you with promises of having sex the next time they come over. They will tell you that they are horny and can’t wait to bang your brains out, but this is a lie.

The narcissist is a liar and has absolutely zero intentions of having sex with you again. They are already having their sexual needs met by their new source of supply. They are focused on grooming their new target and future victim than having any type of sexual intimacy with you.

Of course they will stick around for a while longer in order to extract narcissist supply from you aka anything of value that you have to offer them that will benefit their life.

The longer you stay in this toxic relationship, the more the narcissist withholds sex from you… and the more frustrated you become and the more you try to please them in hopes of getting what you need from your partner.

In time they will start planting seeds of evidence that they are cheating on you only for you to discover and question them. They want to get caught because they know how much it will crush you.

It’s all part of their evil plan. It makes them laugh and gives them a sick rush of adrenaline. 

This is all narcissistic supply for the psychopath who now is enjoying watching you suffer. The narcissist loves torturing you this way and they know that since you are addicted to the wild sex you once had, you will never leave them. This empowers the narcissist and gives them almost total control of your emotions. This is how they hold power over you. 

There is no turning back at this point. Your relationship with the narcissist is already doomed. You must start planning your exit strategy now because it’s only a matter of time before your are discarded by the narcissist and if you think you are suffering now, you don’t want to feel the abandonment of a narcissist discard. It’s really ugly.

You might as well start having your needs met by someone else as well and preparing yourself to move on because the person you were in love with is not who you thought they were. They never were. You were conned by a monster who used you for their supply and benefit until it was time to discard you and throw you to the wolves.

Terminate your relationship with the narcissist now before it’s too late. This is the only way. I have spoken.


Narcissistic abuse is a perpetual nightmare not many can wake up from. The anxiety, trauma and PTSD can last a lifetime if one does not properly cut ties with their psychopathic tormentor and follow through with a specific plan for recovery.

However, this path can be a mystery to most victims of narcissists who’ve been discarded and dismantled. That’s why I’ve put together a step-by-step guide that will show you how to take the first step in establishing boundaries between you and your abuser. Study this guide carefully and do exactly what it says, especially if you have been recently discarded and left to rot by your narcissist ex.

These were the first instructions my mentor gave me back when I too was in hell; gasping for air from the suffocating panic and bed ridden anxiety my psychopath ex had left me in. I followed his guidance to the tee and instantly felt life breathing back into my soul… as will YOU when you follow these easy steps.

The information in this guide is crucial to your mental health and recovery. Do not hesitate or risk another minute of your life drifting into oblivion at the hands of a psychopath narcissist.

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10 Replies to “Narcissist Withholding SEX – Why The Narcissist Stops Having Sex With You”

  1. Dude, you nailed it! I am truly blessed to have discovered your sight and have learned so much in the past half an hour. I wish I would have discovered this sooner; this would have saved years of torture and losing sight of what mattered most, my children, instead of trying to save my marriage with a narcissist who was and still is a vicious life-sucking b**** from which there Is no escape!!!!

  2. Hello
    I wanted to thank you for this information.
    The most DANGEROUS information on youtube , in articles, and even sop therapist and clinical providers is the logic or belief that
    A psychopath can……..change.
    It comes in the form of ” new studies show”
    Or a psychopath themselves ” helping” others.
    I was in a 20 yr marriage to one and just put down my final boundary therefore making the psychopath discard me and our daughter.
    The statement ” PATHOLOGY IS FOREVER”
    From a accurate book I cannot remember
    Totally made me start HEALING my life.
    No empathy means “0”.
    Please educating this TRUTH to anyone in a
    Possible psychopath relationship.the
    Thanks for the support!

  3. My ex husband from 20 years ago did this it crushed me. It drove me crazy, but through searching online found out about narcissism.

  4. Just watched ur video about narcs withholding not a narc, but my soon to be ex husband certainly fills the bill. I can’t say that I “withhold” sex…but when he calls me …cunt, whore, worthless pos, I guess that doesn’t put me “in the mood”. Not to mention, he makes fun of me if I do try to be intimate with him. He has ruined sex for me, but I’m accused of “withholding”. I’m not withholding if I am truly discussed …not his whore, his wife. Any tips. Can’t enjoy sex with him while he calls me “pig” and inflicts pain. Now, who is the narc? Any tips?

  5. Mine got religious on me after a multitude of my cock in her mouth sessions. a COUPLE OF TIMES BEFORE she shut me off. Well I shut her off. I started dating others, and let the Narc know I was moving on with my life. And blocked her phone, Face Book, and mutual friends from F.B. too. These were her people anyway. I just met a decent, well appears so at the beginning….lol Lady. A widow with no attachment to another guy, as far as I know, because he be dead RIP. And the Narc? Come to find out, there’s more than one personality in her sick self. You have to be a sicko to treat someone the way they treat us. Move on, block them forever. Find someone else to love. Have fun and enjoy your life without the toxic person. .Until you ditch them, you won’t. No talking! None!

  6. My ex likes to have a wank in front of me instead of sex , I hope his cock stays soft and he only has himself to supply

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