Why do psychopaths, narcissists and toxic people have a reputation for being unfaithful in all their relationships? Probably because monsters have no sense of empathy, love or respect for life. Too simple for ya? Ok lets go a little deeper and really analyze this common question.
First things first, not everyone that cheats on their spouse is a narcissist. It’s true that some people just have a knack for cheating and ruining a great partnership because they were just too weak to resist temptation or too greedy to appreciated what they had.
It’s also true that some people are just sexually unhappy in their marriages and feel that what their partners don’t know won’t hurt them. This doesn’t make it right but at least they keep their infidelity in secret and make sure their partners don’t ever find out. More on this later…
Sometimes it’s too much hassle to divorce so rather than going thru all that paperwork, some couples just cheat behind each other’s back and continue co-existing like if nothing has happened.
Let’s be honest. None of this is sounds healthy at all, but compared to a relationship with a narcissist, trust me it’s paradise. When it comes to a psychopaths, sociopath or narcissists, cheating and infidelity is inevitable.
They are wired to destroy everything they touch.
Loyalty is foreign to a narcissist, among other admirable virtues such as love, respect, honor, love… the list goes on.
The wicked part about it though is that the narcissist WANTS to be caught. Yes you read that correctly. The narcissist wants you to catch them cheating on you so that they can watch you suffer and fall apart in front of their eyes.
They will leave clues and pieces of evidence that they are being unfaithful in plain sight for you to see and fuss over. Of course, if you bring it up, they will simply gaslight you and make you think you are crazy or guilt you for daring to make such an accusation. And if you keep it to yourself, it will only drive you crazy and eat you up from the inside.
Both options are excellent sources of narcissistic supply for your tormentor who will feed off of whatever demise you choose for yourself.
Remember folks, psychopaths are only interested in narcissistic supply and they are constantly seeking more since it is never enough. They crave that attention, praise, and chivalry anywhere they can get it from and believe me, they have multiple sources of it. You are just the temporary sucker. And by the time the narcissist starts leaving traces of infidelity around, they are already grooming someone else behind your back.
This doesn’t mean the narcissist didn’t cheat on you before, as a matter of fact, it’s more than likely the narcissist was unfaithful from the start of the relationship. However, they just didn’t want you to know just yet since you were still being groomed and did not yet qualify for a dishonorable discharge.
Do not feel bad that your narcissist was unfaithful though. It wasn’t your fault. It’s in their nature to destroy everything that is good. Even when things are amazing in their life, they somehow find a way to ruin them.
My psychopath ex always used to tell me she was ‘cursed.’ I always thought it was some ridiculous woo woo story but now I understand where she as coming from. She knew she was a monster. And the scary part is, she had confessed it to me in so many ways, so many times before… I just wasn’t listening.
Psychopath narcissists are highly intelligent creatures. They know that trust and loyalty in a relationship is crucial to its survival and one of the most important elements of sustaining it over the long term. And since this applies for any relationship whether it is romantic, platonic or professional, the psychopath can infiltrate, extract and destroy almost anyone they form a bond with. No matter how good the supply you provide is, part of their wiring and means of destruction will lead them to betray your trust and break your heart.
So why would they even bother with loyalty and monogamy when they have access to anyone they so choose? They don’t. Psychopaths and narcissists are unfaithful and always cheat on you.
ARE YOU A VICTIM OF A PSYCHOPATH NARCISSIST?
Narcissistic abuse is a perpetual nightmare not many can wake up from. The anxiety, trauma and PTSD can last a lifetime if one does not properly cut ties with their psychopathic tormentor and follow through with a specific plan for recovery.
However, this path can be a mystery to most victims of narcissists who’ve been discarded and dismantled. That’s why I’ve put together a step-by-step guide that will show you how to take the first step in establishing boundaries between you and your abuser. Study this guide carefully and do exactly what it says, especially if you have been recently discarded and left to rot by your narcissist ex.
These were the first instructions my mentor gave me back when I too was in hell; gasping for air from the suffocating panic and bed ridden anxiety my psychopath ex had left me in. I followed his guidance to the tee and instantly felt life breathing back into my soul… as will YOU when you follow these easy steps.
The information in this guide is crucial to your mental health and recovery. Do not hesitate or risk another minute of your life drifting into oblivion at the hands of a psychopath narcissist.
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I believed her lies for over 20 + years.
Now divorced from her (3years) I was granted soul custody of my son.
Tried everything imaginable for her to be a loving wife and a mother.
The judges and both lawyers jaws dropped when she replied to the judge… she did not want any shared custody…. She abandoned not only me but her son.
It was one of the most depressing things I could hear from someone I loved so darn much..in front of everyone in the court……..
……….but it was also welcome to me because I knew and did raise my/our son up solo….and he is in college now on my nickel doing beyond my expectations!!!
She is still respectfully still intermittently hoovering me and more so my son…like she deserves a award for texing me/him a good morning so often.
She has chosen a secret life a long time ago….and could care less about all damage she has caused including major physical abuse.
I’ve been through everything a narcissist puts you through, including her narcissistic children of her ex husbands. I’ve left her just recently, but I’m barely surviving the 6 year trauma of it all..At 52 it’s so hard to recover. 😔
I battle with suicidal thoughts now.
Why, even though I’ve left her to save myself, do I still feel the bad one and that I still miss her?
She feels nothing. To her it’s all me.
I feel like I’m loosing my mind.
Jason
I’M STUCK. I CAN’T FIND MY WAY OUT!
WHERE ARE YOU. ARE YOU OK
Thank you for this website! It has taken me three weeks just to understand what has happened to me!
I know Psychopaths’ exist, but I never dated one before!
About three months ago I was approached in a shopping mall by the most intriguing, very attractive woman, approx. my age. We started talking, she asked me for my phone number, I was flattered. We started texting, talking on the phone, went for a couple dates (we live in different cities).
I thought I had found “The one”! But there were some red flags; she said she was put in a foster home by her biological parents when she was eight years old, but would never say why? She had had three failed marriages, she only seemed to talk about herself, and when she sometimes described seemingly ordinary events, it was in an overly “grandiose” way.
I did feel like she was “love bombing” me with her photos and texts and attention. She did ghost me once for about 18 days, then started texting again, apologizing, saying she felt she had nothing to “offer”, and that she had needed time to get her head on “straight”.
I foolishly let her back into my life, we spoke on the phone, she insisted on coming over and spending the night at my place, it was to be our first and only intimate encounter.
I can honestly say I have never has sex as physically intense, vigorous, enthusiastic, and incredibly good, as this was! We did it three times and I was shocked at how a fifty-seven year old woman who had had seven children over the years, could be so fit, limber, and have the body of a 25 year old! Although, her boobs were fake.
It only took one week after the “seduction” that her texts contained some insulting and sarcastic content/tone, that she had not done before, then a day later I was “ghosted” again.
It hit me incredibly and unusually hard, I felt extreme panic, anxiety, hopelessness, even physical pain in my chest! I couldn’t eat, I couldn’t sleep, it was only when I blocked her number on my phone and realized that it was over for good, that I am slowly beginning to recover. It amazes me that the pattern of behavior for the female psychopath/narcissist seems so consistent; Idealizing, seduction, devaluation, discard, that is exactly what happened to me.
I hope anyone who has gone through a similar disastrous psychopath encounter, has the inner strength and resolve to get through the resulting aftermath!
Thank you for this website!
It has taken me three weeks just to understand what happened to me!
I knew psychopaths existed, but I never date one before!
About three months ago I was approached in a shopping mall by a very intriguing, attractive woman. We started talking, she asked me for my phone number, I was flattered. Soon we were texting, talking on the phone, went for a couple dates, it was a slow process as we live in different cities, but the “love bombing” was making me feel that I had met the “one”.
There were some obvious red flags, I chose to ignore, like: she only seemed to talk about her self, she had no friends, but any time I couldn’t get a hold of her, she said she was “helping someone move”, the way she described ordinary events in a “grandiose” manner, the constant texts of photos of herself and seeming interest in me.
After she ghosted me for a couple weeks, she came back, apologetic, saying that she felt she had “nothing to offer and needed the time to get her head on straight”.
I took the bait, and two days later she is spending the night at my place (at her insistence). This was the “seduction”, and I can honestly say that I have never had sex as physically intense, vigorous, enthusiastic, and incredibly good as this was!
It only took one week after the “seduction” that she changed the tone of her texts to a startling insulting and sarcastic vein.
One day later she started ghosting me again and I knew it was over. It hit me like a freight train, I felt intense panic, anxiety, hopelessness, even physical pain in my chest!
I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat, I was a total emotional wreck, I still don’t get why?
After blocking her number on my phone, I started to recover some piece of mind, but I still can’t quite get her out of my head.
I find it remarkable that the patterns of behavior for these female psychopath narcissists is so consistent; Idealization, seduction, devaluation, then discard.
I hope anyone unfortunate enough to be victimized by such a dysfunctional, soulless, toxic Succubus, has the inner strength and resolve to overcome the eventual aftermath of the encounter.
Yea the no friends is a massive red flag. They use people until they have no worth and then move on.
I have a narcissist gf I am trying to get rid of, when I go no contact, she just shows up at my door. That is ongoing i am going non-contact tomorrow for sure fingers crossed.
My real problem is my mom she is a narcissist, and my dad is her flying monkey. They are both in their 80’s. I went no contact with both of them back in august, saw them once to fix their computer that took all the work i had done and threw it out the window i floated in a fog for about 3 weeks, staying no contact. Well mom is sick dying, dad is so upset i let me 64 years of mental abuse get in the way of her suffering, lol. So, what do i do? they are going to be putting her in a care facility, my dad will force me to see her I do not want to see her. How do I play this? I am in contact with my dad daily he is acting like i am back and all is good. But I don’t want to be back. My dad has a heart even though he is a bit like her, but she is evil through and through. And yes, they are rich, and i am, you got it poor. lol
Hello,
I need some advice I did what you said in your videos and have been doing the “no contact” rule to help me get over him and heal from the discard. I did not think this would be a problem since he was the one that blocked me from his facebook. I can still text but I haven’t since the day I moved out and away from him. But he recently did something that made me want to call or text and tell him off. He emailed the person I work for and asked if they could still be friends not wanting to cause problems for me. Well does he not think him emailing my client would not be a problem for me. I am not a heartless monster like him. And of course she was going to tell me. What does he expect her to say to him. She and her husband never considered him a friend he was my worker and i fired him the day he told me he wanted a divorce because i found out he was cheating on me. That was six months ago if he really cared about friendship why contact them 6 months later. This has taken me back to the first day i started my recovery and I am once again a complete mess and fustrated and crying and unable to think about nothing else. I want to tell him off so bad I am fighting my own flesh to not contact him. They did assure me that they have no interest in him whatsoever because they saw what i went through first hand I had to still go to work crying and swollen eyes i told her everything that he did to me since day 1 and she understood because she was with a narcisisst once and her sister was one too. What do I do? he also made sure i got the news that he had quite doing meth which don’t mean shit to me anymore I am not with him maybe to let me know how good he is doing with his new supply. I don’t care how he is doing with that lying dog he calls his love she is a hypocrite because she is a dope fien hooked on opiates and is also using meth with him and works as a drug counselor for a drug rehab sober living community program. It makes me sick to my stomach to even share the truth about that. That’s another thing I want to email someone so bad that’s in charge at her work and demand they fire that liar. She don’t belong there giving advice to people who truly are there to get sober she needs to take her own advice and be admitted in the programs and not work there. I pray she humbles herself and does the right thing soon or I will do it for her. How do i handle this seriously he is probably going to tryand ruin my reputation and clear his by telling them lies about me. she is not going to reply but he could email her again and just say whatever he wants he has nothing on me but he don’t care he will still lie to them. ok that’s it hope to hear from you soon.
3 1/2 yrs, AT the beginning, she came into the store I was working @, I just got out of a 17yr old relationship, prior, I wasn’t ready to date, for six months she came in every night,always would give me her # , I never called, besides the 17yr old relationship, I was still trying get over, her stopping in every night buying alcohol, turned me off ,And she was a 12 out of 10, fkn BEAUTIFUL, AND SEXY ASF.. BUT I was sober at the time for 10 yrs. and didn’t want any part of it. After 6 months, I finally gave in, one night it was her birthday and I asked her out,.FKN MISTAKE. . 1 OUT OF SO MANY. . WE went out I blew 10yrs of sobriety, (my fault) she spent the night,.Like u said “THE SEX ” UNBELIEVABLE,. NOTHING LIKE IT NO 1 ELSE COMPARED in all my life. That was the fist 🪝 in me.. and from then on ,we were together everyday, she lived at her moms.. but had an apartment in Washington, well then come to find out she used amphetamines, well so I begun to as well.. she no friends really, so I helped her move up here, the only 1 Noone else would.. well then came to where I started spending all my money on beer and shit, and giving her more and more, I was working 80 90 hrs a week, and giving and giving, paid on Friday broke by sat. And she would get pissed off when I said I was broke, so she would call up some guys that were her “friends” so she could get money while I was working, Red flag,. Well about a month after we started seeing one another she got her own place,. She asked me to move in, I did, then one night she came to my work, and asked me to sell her some beer and shots, I said no it was past 130,she made a big seen screaming and at the cameras saying I sold it to her be4 y not this time, I told her leave,. Finally she did, the next day I went into work and she got me fired, from the night b4.. so I went back to my place . She popped up being sorry 4 it, and I went back, well she needed stuff so I did have money put away from the past 2 yrs. Then introduced her to my boy, mistake, 1wk later she started a fight and left , so I left well for 9 days she was gone, no contact, then I heard she was hanging w my boy, for shit , and she came round on the 9th day and I asked her about it, of course LIED, but she got a call from her friend and she was at her house asking when she was coming back because well I looked and I seen him in the background, so I got our of the car and said it’s over, she didn’t understand y, I told her , so she asked me to cone home w her I said yes and she said tomorrow she’ll come get me, I said nothing got out the car and left. I was just seeing things he wasn’t there. She keept on me coming over calling , till I gave in, 9 months past, I didn’t work, she didn’t want me too, eveytime I would shed fuk it up . Finally after 9 months of her staying our all night, days at a time no calls, going to this guy’s house to get high, and staying there 4 days, , I knew what was going on , but didn’t want to know,I fell in love w her, and I never fell in love w another b4, she made me see the future for the 1st time in my life , and her and her daughter was what I seen . It was beautiful, She gave me hope, showed me I could be in love , showed me the kind of man I wanted to be, A WORLD I NEVER SEEN B4 IN ALL MY LIFE,, MARRIAGE, SHE ASKED ME “adopt her little girl” after we got married. That meant everything to me,. I stopped drinking and gettn high, and went to work, redoing apartments where we lived, I was working 60 70 hrs q week, for money, to Pay the bills for nails for shit she wanted. And her friend was giving her 700 900 every 2wks,and gettn my money, I knew all bout that, no problem, I met him a few times , well then shot happened where her child got taken away, so she had 2 go thru programs to get her back, and I was right there w her, doing everything, I did classes, paid money 4 piss tests , everyday classes, 2x a week taken test, and online classes 3x a week in the evening, right by her side. When Noone was there, and more, well I cleaned I cooked, I wrkd, breakfast in bed, eveything anyone else would appreciate, not her, I think she thought I owed her.. everything was about her, she would flirt in front of me,get numbers and brag about it, she always had to he center of attraction, and the loudest person in the room just to be noticed, she never said ty ,excuse me, please, she had no respect 4 anyone, always spend my money and keep hers smoke all my ciggs and when I was out she didn’t share ,she told me to go buy some,. I never got a key to the apartment, she stole all my clothes, about 8000.00 worth and gave them away and sold them,I bought her a ring she sold it , bought her another and accused me of taking it, .. I was a fkn mat she could walk on and wouldn’t even wash me, just kept walking on, lie after lie,… the thing is, it was my fault because I kept letting it happen, I was fkn blinded by a piece of shit w no soul, remorse, no morals,no heart,well a black heart, no conscience, no empathy, no kooth, just an empty, hollow, THING!! THAT I LOVED & didn’t care what she was I put the blinders on, and swallowed what was left of my pride, and my self worth, it didn’t matter as long as she was mine, then she decided to get mad and play the it’s nault shit and went and lied to my boss, and said I was doing drugs , and got me fired, that way I wasn’t working in the apartment complex were we lived, so that went on for about a month, I listened to her B.S. again and went back, then wouldbitch about I never buy her things, take her anywhere, when the crazy NARC GOT ME FIRED.. ,WTF.. THEN 2 MONTHS LATER MY EX BOSS CALLED ME BACK TO WRK, WHEN I DID she was gettn overnight visits, w her little girl, so I would go to my place for the night, then it went to weekends, then 3 x a week then I moved out completely, and really didn’t talk much, unless she needed money,. And then she EXPECTED ME TO STILL PAY HER RENT AND HELP HER PAY HER BILLS,. when I started not giving her as much money as she wanted she woul take the money and I wouldn’t hear from her until next payday..
How can I leave a ex obsession with me.
There times he would say I don’t want you to leave,I do love you, that’s all a lie.
I see him still talking to him texting them for drugs and other things
I need truly your help kira I don’t want to go back to him his evil and very aggressive.
How the heck does someone recover from this? He knew I was the perfect target. He said he was broken and he would ruin things because he always does. He wanted to get caught and confessed when his wife asked. He lead me to believe his relationship was over. Everyone believed him. Then after getting caught, things changed. He ghosted me, then came back, over and over. Said he loved me one last time then went on a vacation with his wife that was plastered all over social media. Now she is stalking ME. How does one get out? I don’t even want to live anymore. What the hell just happened?
Be strong…
All you have to do is believe in your self again.
Right now my wife has left the house and left me and our boy and is banging her boss. I am passed hurt and just have to laugh at her pathetic behaviour. These people are very very sick and need to be disposed of. I have a 11 year old and I present the truth, it will give him street smarts. These people are pathetic, I took her son on from a presvious marriage and that gave her permission to carry on with this pathetic behaviour. She is a nightmere but I am using her nacissitic actions against her, I expose her actions to my children because truth does not need a defense, truth will protect its self