When dealing with a toxic psychopath or narcissist, you will be faced with many unexplained and unacceptable behavior that will no doubt cause you great torment and grief. One of the ways a psychopath tortures their victims is thru random narcissist ghosting. Random to the untrained person, but a textbook and predictable maneuver to a seasoned and fully recovered victim of narcissism.
In this article we are going to dive deep into the motivations that drive a psychopath to ghost you and why it is so effective in hurting the victim.
First of all let’s get something straight. Narcissists are monsters and feed off of narcissistic supply the same way vampires live off of the blood of humans. If the narcissist cannot get their fix of supply from you, they will look for another source. It is not uncommon for a psychopath narcissist to already have many other sources of supply while in a relationship with you.
The problem we face though is that when dating a narcissist, they expect that you will be their main source of supply. This is why you were targeted in the first place and why they made the decision to get into a relationship with you.
So when suddenly their needs are not met, at your expense, they will get angry and completely disenchanted with you and rather than having a rational human conversation with you to figure out what went wrong or perhaps trying to compromise with their loving partner, they will punish you instead.
That’s right, they feel you deserve punishment for not supplying them with what they need, even though they never met your needs in the relationship.
You are nothing to them. Remember that. It’s all about them. It’s always been about them.
One of the ways the psychopath tortures you is by disappearing or ignoring you. When the narcissist pulls the disappearing act, it’s safe to say they are upset at you and are out scouting for new supply. They know you will suffer and worry and will triple your efforts in reaching out to them and apologizing, even when you have absolutely nothing to apologize for.
Let’s not forget how narcissists never apologize when they are wrong, which is usually most of the time, but I digress.
Narcissist ghosting can be predicted after a huge fight or argument when you called them out on something or somehow managed to disrupt their plan.
I remember when my psychopath ex was orchestrating a scene where she was making me believe some crazy guy was stalking her when the truth was she was sleeping with him and cheating on me. When I began calling her out on the inconsistencies of her story, she threw a tantrum, stormed out of my house and ghosted me for a week.
During this time I was left alone with nothing by my distorted thoughts and a world of loneliness and fear of having lost her due to my accusations. She knew me too well, as all narcissists know exactly how to crush their victims.
Another motivation for narcissist ghosting is after the discard. Meaning after the toxic relationship has come to an abrupt end. The narcissist will ghost you and move on with their new source of supply and flaunt it all over social media for your eyes to see.
At first you will assume that they are sad over the breakup and missing you and just need some time to themselves to heal. However, once you realize the narcissist had ghosted you, it will hit you like a ton of bricks, especially if you are looking at their social media and notice how happy they are with their new lover.
This is why going no contact with the narcissist especially after a discard or a narcissistic disappearing act is of extreme importance to your mental health and recovery. These monsters are toxic and are doing this to you in order to torture you psychologically and emotionally abuse you. It is a sick and cruel act of emotional violence and you do not deserve it.
If you are in the midst of a narcissist ghosting you, use this golden opportunity to move on and never look back. Beat them at their own game and realize the monster has inadvertently tossed you a bone. Take it and run.
ARE YOU A VICTIM OF A PSYCHOPATH NARCISSIST?
Narcissistic abuse is a perpetual nightmare not many can wake up from. The anxiety, trauma and PTSD can last a lifetime if one does not properly cut ties with their psychopathic tormentor and follow through with a specific plan for recovery.
However, this path can be a mystery to most victims of narcissists who’ve been discarded and dismantled. That’s why I’ve put together a step-by-step guide that will show you how to take the first step in establishing boundaries between you and your abuser. Study this guide carefully and do exactly what it says, especially if you have been recently discarded and left to rot by your narcissist ex.
These were the first instructions my mentor gave me back when I too was in hell; gasping for air from the suffocating panic and bed ridden anxiety my psychopath ex had left me in. I followed his guidance to the tee and instantly felt life breathing back into my soul… as will YOU when you follow these easy steps.
The information in this guide is crucial to your mental health and recovery. Do not hesitate or risk another minute of your life drifting into oblivion at the hands of a psychopath narcissist.
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i have taken care of my second husband since even before we were married. Now he is too tired for sex. we haven’t had sex in 6 months. I’m not ugly. I have a steady check coming in plus, I’ve picked up a second job having retired from teaching after 28 years. Now, no affection and he is 12 years younger than me and quite pretty. he never had a place to go and i could not kick my puppy out the door. I sense he has issues. we all do but i thought we were partners and we could help each other. well, it looks like i am going to be lonely again but at least i love myself. help me find the courage to do what i have to do. i do love him and losing him is going to be hard
Do they come back? Some people say yes some people say no when I read up on it . It was a nine week relationship.
Dear Kimberly:
Count yourself as being actually Blessed by God himself. Take it from somebody who
spent all years with a Malignant Narcissist Psychopath Father and a Covert Narcissist Mother. I am an
“HSP” and most of my family ARE Narcissists.
I have had many long term-relation-illusions in my life. All but one (really nice guy at college) were ALL narcissists. I didn’t know what a “Narcissist” was until 2012 when I kicked one out of the house because he was getting violent. Cheating. Standing over me while I was laying on the bed watching TV and SCREAMING at me at the top of his Lungs calling me various things like “Loser, Slut, Whore, Liar, Cheater”. He started grabbing my wrists hard and twisting them. He moved out!! 6 years, the Evil Monster really came out of this guy when we moved in together the last year with 4 girls (2 of mine, 2 of his). He stalked me for 2 years straight. I haven’t been on Social Media since, and he Stalked me “live” as well. Emailed, etc. I got another “Boyfriend” 1.5 years later, who was SO MUCH DIFFERENT THAN THE OTHERS. SO QUIET, SO SHY, TOLD SAD STORIES. BUT, BEWARE!!
In 8 Eight years, I managed to move in with him after only knowing him 5 months. Waited 6 years to marry this guy. We got married, he turned into the most EVIL NON-PERSON … ENTITY I HAVE EVER HAD TO LIVE WITH IN MY LIFE. I am giving you a warning Kimberly… if you are still with this guy, if he “came back”, you failed your lesson and God is trying to MAKE YOU LEARN IT AND KNOW IT!! or you will keep getting worse and worse Narcissist Psychopaths/Sociopaths in this Life and in your Next Lives until you GET IT!! He gave me a SICK AND TWISTED, CONSTANTLY CHEATING (and I didn’t know it until after we got Married) PSYCHOPATH!!! A SICK!! COVERT NARC… They live a whole other life. Not just one Kim. He has at least 35 other people he sleeps with. It has been 9 months, and I just started Investigating. I heard HIM having sex with a guy!! on his boat. He told me he NEVER watches porn. LOL!! This guy was going to watch porn 4 to 5 times a day and masturbate all day long!! Then go have sex with 2 or 3 other girls, then ME!!! UNPROTECTED TOO!!! HOOKERS TOO… I have all the Evidence from this Scumbag. And he told his Family bad things about me… WHAT A JOKE!! I don’t leave the house hardly ever!! He looked at a certain porn, and he has a “TYPE” of girl (they all are young) that he goes for. Many are “Teachers”, many have “Kids”. He has had a Baby with a couple of them I am pretty sure by his “Amazon Browsing History”. If they don’t share their Bank Account, put you on Financials, don’t bring their paychecks home (he was only working 35 hours per week and telling me it was like 55 to 60) OMG! He doesn’t get his Credit Card Statements delivered.
Except he forgot one Credit Card, and with his Amazon stuff, the girl he WAS LIVING WITH RIGHT ACROSS THE STREET AND OVER ONE HOUSE (SHE JUST MOVED TO ANOTHER CITY IN FEBRUARY – BABY)!! He remodeled her whole house and another girl’s whole apartment. Both were sold and made a huge profit. He got PAID for his work. He is making $$ under the table, he took all of our Taxes when he left, he has MOVED Money, he has opened more Bank Accounts, he has an Account in India!! THIS IS WHAT TO LOOK FORWARD TO WHEN YOU MARRY THESE P.O.S!! They give you the permanent silent treatment LOL!! When you have a list a mile long to bust them on and one of their kids too, here it is: Attempted Murder, Physically Beat Me, Abused Me Verbally, Mentally, Emotionally (silent treatment counts), Physically, FINANCIALLY, Grand Theft Larceny (him and his Son stole our Boat and I hired a P.I. to find it), I have tons of evidence of his cheating and a phone bill for 2 years that WILL SHOW YOU GUYS JUST HOW SLIMY AND EVIL THESE ADULTERERS REALLY ARE, AND THE GIRLS THAT DO IT WITH THEM ARE GOING STRAIGHT TO HELL AS WELL!! There’s other stuff, but I’m tired LOL!!
Kimberly!! Don’t ever put your last name online. He is looking at everything you do. My Psychopath moved and did the dumbest thing!! They always screw up because they think they’re so SMART LOL!! He has tons of Aliases. Thought it would be a good idea to put him and “Annie” on a Home Loan then drop it into my Phone when he was STALKING AND SPYING ON ME AND SOMEONE ELSE FOR OVER A YEAR NOW!! STALKING AND SPYING HAS BEEN REAL FUN!! IT’S A FEDERAL CRIME, AND I HAVE TONS OF EVIDENCE. I ALSO HAVE ALL 3 PHONES HE HAD WHEN HE DECIDED TO JUST LEAVE ONE NIGHT WHEN I CAUGHT HIM DRIVING IN FRONT OF OUR HOUSE BY THE PARK FOR THE 100th TIME. He still doesn’t want his crap back! Make copies of ALL OF YOUR DOCS people! They go through YOUR STUFF ALL OF THE TIME!! THEY STEAL YOUR STUFF!!! AND, It Is TRUE!! The do leave little clues about their Adultery, but then they take them away when they have a fun night with you and think you didn’t see!! THEY WILL BRUTALIZE YOU if you own a house together and they want to stay in it. I (and someone) have nowhere to go, so he tried to KILL ME!! If my person hadn’t been there, I would have been DEAD. DEAD!!! He has zero empathy. None. Zero. Doesn’t even ask about the Cat… has a Dog now. A 51 year old man who wasted all of my Money!! Wasted my time!! I cleaned, cooked, did that little teeny weenie’s laundry constantly, he wasn’t even good in bed – I asked him how he could go around to 5 Counties and have sex with all of those people when it only lasted 10 seconds (10 Seconds to Love – like the Motley Crue Song). LOL LOL LOL!!! And that is just with the people on this phone bill! He had his OWN AT&T Unlimited Plan too towards the end. I can’t make this up!! When he pretended he was staying with me and “returned” his Router (said it was part of my Ultimatum) LOL LOL!!! He had a device that Extended Coverage more – it wasn’t even the Router. THEY LIE ABOUT EVERYTHING!!! EVERY LITTLE DAMN THING!! The shock of finding all of this out, wasn’t funny Kimberly. I can laugh a little now, but he put me through Torturous Abuse and Committed Adultery practically in front of me. He would ignore my phone calls and texts. When he first “disappeared” for a weekend to screw around with some hooker, I thought he was dead!! I was so worried. I really did love this P.O.S. 8 Years is a long time. 9 Weeks is nothing. They also don’t want to talk about Divorce. They don’t apologize. They don’t care what they did to you, what they gave you, if your hair falls out from the shock… if you lose 50 or 100 pounds. THEY DON’T CARE!!! What they do care about is when you tell people! They don’t want to be “outed” for who they really are. TELL EVERYBODY!! Kids with this Monster is a disaster. And, nowadays, DON’T BE A TRUSTING, HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON LIKE ME!! DO NOT TRUST ANYBODY – ESPECIALLY IN 9 WEEKS!! Don’t move-in with them (make them Marry YOU)!! And take a long time. I lived with him 5.5 Years, and married him at 6.5 years. For the last year and a half, I lived with SATAN HIMSELF. And, when he gets really mad, look at the eyes. They turn BLACK. You can see the Evil Inside sometimes, OR it’s just Black — and — Empty. Very, Very, Empty. They will Shoot your F-n Face Off just to get some Supply to fill their empty void. DO NOT GIVE THEM ANY!!
Hire a Private Detective BEFORE you Marry him!! Especially if you don’t see him all day! This P.O.S. would come home for lunch at the house, and then go to some chick’s house for 6 hours to have sex then come back home. He made 150k the year before. Then it went to $130k. This last year I have no idea!! But, his boss has no idea he does this!! OMG!! and OFTEN! and these girls all think they are HIS ONLY GIRL! I think he had them convinced I didn’t want to be with him and I committed Adultery and we never slept together?!! They are Wicked, they are Sick, they are Mentally Ill. They are seeing 60 people at once. They don’t love you, they don’t like you. THEY ARE USING YOU. If anyone thinks that they are the only ones who have a “Faithful” Psychopath or Sociopath…. hire a Private Detective. See if they are on YOUR FAMILY phone bill. Search the car for a 2nd and 3rd phone. Put up cams all over your house. You’ll be super surprised what they do. I even timed how long he went “out” to make his calls. What a dummy!! He even checked his “secret phone” right by the camera! THINK LIKE THEY DO. HE put a Spy Stereo in my Vehicle. GPS. Made new RIng Account and could see us (if they know the serial number, they can get in). He went into our Comcast Alarm. He went into all phones. all laptops, the router, etc. Blew it all up, but not before leaving LOTS OF EVIDENCE!! I love it when they choose Smart People who go on YouTube and LEARN about them! and write for help. Watching YouTube and getting help is the best thing you can do. AND NO CONTACT. They are with tons of other people. It’s time to heal yourself and get ready FOR A REAL LIFE GUY! NOT SOME SATAN MADE OF PLASTIC WHO LOOKS AT HIMSELF DURING SEX — LOL LOL LOL!! Then makes a weird face at the end… It’s weird PSYCHOPATH S*it like this that you need to notice. AND THE LAUGH, no, no more!
Please can I please talk one on one to you. I feel im going crazy my psychopath slowly killing me with lies gashlighting abuse etc . I have tried to break free for months
Thank you
Ulrika from 🇸🇪 Sweden
I really find your videos amazing .
Thank you 😊
I am a victim just learning about this. I have been youtubing everything on psychopaths and narcissist. He just ghosted me twice. This is the second time. He is still gone. I have been calling him out on his bull crap while he has been gone. Is there someone I can talk to in person to help recover from this?
I am terribly traumatized how he stood me up New years eve and telling Another man he loves him on my phones chat site after hacking it saying I was cheating on him and we are fuck buddy’s only
I’ve never hurt so much affecting my job life ect