After being discarded by a narcissist or psychopath, most victims obsessively wonder if their ex is actually better off without them. It’s a common curiosity to have especially in the condition that the narcissist leave their victims in; sometimes questioning their own validity or purpose in this world.
While this type of question can be of a subjective matter, many people feel that only the extreme, machine like Terminator-type of psychopath is legitimately better off without you after making their calculated decision that continuing to have you in their life would not benefit them in any way.
These types of psychopaths are on a clear cut mission and get no value in torturing you for fun or boredom because they have much larger, global scale type of goals and probably saw you as a temporary asset. Once they got what they needed, they discarded you the same way we discard a scented candle once it’s been completely burned out and useless to us.
As for the more common low grade psychopath or the average narcissistic individual with trauma and low self esteem issues, well, it can be argued that they are probably worse off than when they were with you. These disordered personalities probably thought you were the best they’ve ever had but due to their lust for more supply and validation, fell right back into their predictable pattern of idealization, devaluation, and discard.
It’s a frustrating time for the narcissist when they realize their new prey could not live up to their expectations and you were the better source of supply.
Of course, unlike a normal functioning human being, these narcissists have such a delusional way of thinking that they are able to convince themselves, time and time again that their new prey is always better than their last and when the whole thing turns into complete shit, they blame everyone else but themselves for the failure and destruction of their relationships.
The problem lies when the victims who are left behind, broken, beaten and bruised from all of the narcissistic abuse, start to wonder if their ex is actually in a better place now. So they go snooping around social media and such, trying to get a glimpse at what their past tormentors are doing now.
The narcissist anticipates this move and they fabricate a perfect life on social media with pictures and stories of how happy they are with their new love, etc. This is all smoke and mirrors and it’s part of the narcissistic facade from which they can’t escape.
Think of it this way, narcissists lives in a fake world created within their own minds. Everything they do is carefully planned out and calculated.
They wear a mask to hide their true selves and are Pathological Liars.
No functioning human being with real emotions can sustain living a lie such as the ones narcissists and psychopaths live without some sort of mental break down. Their disorder leads them to familiar patterns of destruction and self sabotage while happiness eludes them.
The very same stress they were under trying to cover up lie after lie while dating or married to you is the very same stress, if not worse, they will undergo with their new victim. They will never be at rest. They will never find peace. They will never be happy.
So is your narcissist ex better off without you? I think the question you might wanna ask yourself instead is;
Am I better off without the narcissist? And the answer is, HELL YEAH.
ARE YOU A VICTIM OF A PSYCHOPATH NARCISSIST?
Narcissist abuse is a perpetual nightmare not many can wake up from. The anxiety, trauma and PTSD can last a lifetime if one does not properly cut ties with their psychopathic tormentor and follow through with a specific plan for recovery.
However, this path can be a mystery to most victims of narcissists who’ve been discarded and dismantled. That’s why I’ve put together a step-by-step guide that will show you how to take the first step in establishing boundaries between you and your abuser. Study this guide carefully and do exactly what it says, especially if you have been recently discarded and left to rot by your narcissist ex.
These were the first instructions my mentor gave me back when I too was in hell; gasping for air from the suffocating panic and bed ridden anxiety my psychopath ex had left me in. I followed his guidance to the tee and instantly felt life breathing back into my soul… as will YOU when you follow these easy steps.
The information in this guide is crucial to your mental health and recovery. Do not hesitate or risk another minute of your life drifting into oblivion at the hands of a psychopath narcissist.
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mine i believe is the terminator type amd so i think u have explained Why he kept cuddling me after the discard and calling me by his pet name for me when he all along I believe grooming new ” high level” womwn now i feel really foolish i let him cuddle pull me close with no other intention for us Now i said im moving out and hes halppy siad GOOD time to move on but still cuddles me at night pulls me close Should I leave NOW when hes at business trip does it matter if hes replaced me Probsbly He wont answer that question if hes seeing someone serious now but how will me being gone when he gets back if hes already discarded me???
As for the more common low grade psychopath or the average narcissistic individual with trauma and low self esteem issues, well, it can be argued that they are probably worse off than when they were with you. These disordered personalities probably thought you were the best they’ve ever had but due to their lust for more supply and validation, fell right back into their predictable pattern of idealization, devaluation, and discard.
My Narc to a T. He’s with this horrible downgrade woman, don’t let her post anything from them in public (she puts up with this), but still doesn’t leave her. I am sure he doesn’t want to admit he made a mistake in leaving his wife and kids (we looked like the perfect family), he looks like a mess now. It’s incredible how self destructive they are. Too bad my kids suffer a lot from this and I do, too.