Psychopath narcissists are experts in finding ways to continue tormenting and mentally abusing you after the discard phase especially if they feel they can still extract more narcissistic supply from you.
This is why going no contact with a psychopath ex is the most effective way to stop the bleeding and the first steps towards recovery from a narcissistic abusive relationship.
Once you have a few days in a row of no contact under your belt, you will slowly start noticing a decrease in panic, anxiety and confusion. It may be subtle but believe me the antidote has begun running its course.
Going No Contact with your narcissist ex is not easy at first but once you get a taste of what it feels like to have these toxic individuals out of your radar, you will wish you had started the process sooner.
After a week of no contact with the psychopath, you might be able to finally start breathing fully again without that sudden jump in your lower abdomen. You know exactly what I’m referring to.
This will prove enough for you to trust in the process and continue with the plan.
After a few weeks to a month, you will experience a noticeable decrease in anxiety and panic attacks. The narcissistic fog that had your mind warped will start to fade and you will start feeling empowered.
If you can make it past a month, it will get easier and easier. Soon you will be at 90 days no contact with your narcissist ex and will probably start bragging about it.
It is encouraged to celebrate these WINS and the milestones for it will give you strength, confidence and power.
Before you know it, it will be a year since you last had contact with your psychopath ex and you will be amazed at how much better your life is with that toxic individual purged from your life.
However, while the rewards of going No Contact with the narcissist are endless, breaking the no contact rule in any way (texting, chatting, phone call, looking at old photos, stalking their social media, seeing them in person, etc) will bring upon catastrophic consequences.
Only an educated, fully healed and recovered survivor of psychopathic narcissistic abuse can resist the hazards of making contact with their narcissist abuser again.
And even at that level, it is discouraged to do so for there will always be an underlying dormant layer of narcissist trauma deep within the core.
If you are fresh off a discard and/or in the beginning stages of your recovery from narcissistic abuse, then you need to understand how breaking the no contact rule with the narcissist spells DOOM.
Even if you’ve strung together 30 days of no contact and you are feeling brave and empowered, know that it’s too soon to be taking such a high risk. Breaking the no contact rule takes you Back to Day 0 of your recovery.
Day 0 means you are back in hell as that’s the best way to describe it.
All panic and anxiety returns, the ptsd continues, the rage, the anger, the conflicting thoughts, the racing mind, it all comes back in full force, ever reminding you of how toxic these individuals are.
Breaking No Contact with your narcissist psychopath ex dissolves all of the days or months you’ve accumulated and you have to start all over again because as you’ll realize, the next morning you will not feel the serenity you had before you made contact with your narcissist.
This can be as simple as stalking their social media or having a brief text conversation with them. The anxiety will paralyze you again and in a way, you will have resurrected the demon once more.
It’s like when an addict relapses after being sober for a few months. All the recovery they had goes out the window and the consequences of that relapse are usually far greater than the last time they used.
This is exactly what happens to a victim of a narcissist every time they break the no contact rule.
This return to misery is especially true for those just fresh from a discard where the narcissist’s toxins are still concentrated deep within their system.
If you break no contact with a psychopath narcissist ex, the good news is, you can recommit to going No Contact again immediately.
The process starts all over again tomorrow and now that you realize how breaking no contact only takes you back to hell, you will double your efforts to stay as far away as possible from your psychopath narcissist ex.
For those survivors who have children with these narcissistic individuals and may need to keep some form of communication open:
Please note that the narcissist is fully aware of the leverage they have on you due to the kids and possible sharing of custody.
They will capitalize on those moments of contact to punish and continue their narcissistic abuse.
Therefore it is imperative to keep your interactions with your psychopath ex brief and to the point.
Set hard boundaries and refrain from entertaining any bait they might try to lure you back in with.
Narcissistic abuse and trauma is not something one gets over in a few weeks. It takes a long time for the brain to unfvk itself from the programming and manipulation the psychopath orchestrated.
If you want to save your life and regain your sanity, it is of utmost importance that you commit to the no contact rule. This is the only way out of narcissist prison and into a happy, joyous and free life.
ARE YOU A VICTIM OF A PSYCHOPATH NARCISSIST?
Narcissist abuse is a perpetual nightmare not many can wake up from. The anxiety, trauma and PTSD can last a lifetime if one does not properly cut ties with their psychopathic tormentor and follow through with a specific plan for recovery.
However, this path can be a mystery to most victims of narcissists who’ve been discarded and dismantled. That’s why I’ve put together a step-by-step guide that will show you how to take the first step in establishing boundaries between you and your abuser. Study this guide carefully and do exactly what it says, especially if you have been recently discarded and left to rot by your narcissist ex.
These were the first instructions my mentor gave me back when I too was in hell; gasping for air from the suffocating panic and bed ridden anxiety my psychopath ex had left me in. I followed his guidance to the tee and instantly felt life breathing back into my soul… as will YOU when you follow these easy steps.
The information in this guide is crucial to your mental health and recovery. Do not hesitate or risk another minute of your life drifting into oblivion at the hands of a psychopath narcissist.
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Me again… I have not spoke to him in 67 days! Just been affected by the comments from my children. Advice on reaction. Try to not them see how it affects me. He doesnt deserve satisfaction of even hearing about me.
My both parents are extremely sociopath.my mother is a sociopath and my father is a pshycopath.They both are very dangerous for my well being.Finally,i recognized their abuse and trying to get out of this. Thanks.
I feel like a fool now considering that I was duped by my narcissist girlfriend for over 7 years. She has cheated on me numerous times and practically destroyed me financially. Yet, I kept taking her back. I realize that I was the source of my own problem. But what I realized now is that I fell into a pattern with her of accepting her abuse and mini breakups to falling back into the relationship to accept the short honeymoon period of a week or so before the abuse started again. It is totally bizarre to me now of how I thought this was normal. But, we would reunite stating that we were just being nonsensical to each other and that we could do better for each other. I can’t tell you how many times I heard that in the past. With the last iteration of this nightmare, we had reunited with the understanding that we were boyfriend girlfriend. She agreed to this. I was very happy for about a month with her. But then I noticed the cracks were forming. Stupidly, within this honeymoon period, I decided to buy her a rather expensive television, an 85 inch one that would fill her wall in. She was with me at Best buy when I bought it for her. She gladly accepted it and it came on November 11th. It was set up by the geek squad a few days later. She broke up with me 2 weeks later. I was flabbergasted. She wouldn’t discuss anything with me it and made it sound like my problem. I was finally driven to the point of despair and told her never to call me again. To top it off, on January 2nd, she ordered coffee from a online vendor using my credit card number that she
stole from me. She always told me to bring my wallet in at night that it was unsafe in my car. It was actually more unsafe in her house. She apparently took a photo of my debit card and used it to order crap online. This confirmed that this was never a relationship. It was just a situationship that she utilized to take advantage of me for 7 years. I lost several hundred thousand dollars with her. But finally, I’m out of the fog. But I’m also very angry and probably will be for quite a while. One of her insights to me was that she felt very uncomfortable being in a romantic relationship with me and that all she wanted was just to be friends or best friends. My response is I don’t buy friends expensive televisions and I asked for her to pay me back. She hasn’t and never
will. She played a magnificent con game with me.