It’s been well studied and documented that highly effective female narcissists and psychopaths target alpha males for top narcissistic supply and access to the better things in life.
Chances are you if you’ve been targeted by a female narcissist, it’s because you are a high quality man and have much to offer a woman.
However, this doesn’t necessarily mean that they will overlook a beta male if they feel they can extract enough narcissistic supply out of them as well.
Let’s take a look at the 3 most common ways a beta male provider gets used by a female narcissist or psychopath.
First let’s get a clear understanding of what a beta male provider is. When compared to an alpha male with a high level of social confidence and masculine energy, the beta male comes off as having lower levels of self confidence, especially around women.
While the alpha male goes after what he wants, fearlessly conquering his goals, the beta male tends to play it safe and comes off more insecure and less dominant. Hence women find them less attractive.
However, a female narcissist might use a beta male provider to get what she needs because she knows he may not have any more options in the dating scene and might be his best chances of having sex.
Below are 3 of the most commonly reported ways a female narcissist or psychopath woman uses a beta male provider to extract her narcissistic supply.
- 1. The female narcissist takes advantage of the beta male provider by making him feel special with short doses of attention that the beta male is not used to receiving from highly attractive women.
This attention hooks the beta male and makes the love bombing stage so easy for the female narcissist, she barely has to do much since the beta male is starving for female attention.
The female psychopath would have to double or triple her efforts to love bomb an alpha male who’s already winning at life and dating multiple quality women, but charming a beta male provider is a walk in the park for a female predator.
She might not even sleep with the poor lad and just keep him around providing her with riches in hopes of winning over her heart and a chance at any form of sexual reciprocation.
Since the beta male is not skilled at courting a woman, he will find himself clueless and stuck in a cycle of giving giving and giving but barely receiving. The female narcissist will suck the beta male’s resources dry while sleeping with the alpha males of her choice behind his back.
2. The female narcissist uses the beta male provider to boost her ego and to have a shoulder to cry on when the outside world rejects her.
One thing is for certain. Female narcissists experience a lot of backlash in the world once their mask begins to crack and falter. They can’t keep up their masquerade for too long and people start noticing what a piece of filth they really are.
Once this happens, the female narcissist quickly turns to her beta male provider chode to sooth her wounds and rebuild her ego. The beta male is like the white knight who swears to save her from the ugliness of the world and resurrect her broken spirit.
If only the beta male understood female narcissists and psychopaths are soulless creatures and more like energy vampires. They absorb the good will of the beta male as a means to strengthen themselves while leaving the poor chumps drained of their life energy.
The beta male fails to recognize this time and time again because it is in the nature of the beta male to be a provider and submissive next to a strong female narcissistic predator.
3. Female Narcissists use beta males as their flying monkeys.
Female narcissists and psychopaths usually work alone but aren’t afraid of indoctrinating minions along their way to do their bidding for them. A beta male is a perfect candidate for their master plan because they are easily intoxicated by the psychopath’s charm that they will follow their lead and do what they’re told just at the idea that they might ‘get lucky.’
These indoctrinated minions are known in the narcissism world as flying monkeys and are too brain washed and blind to see how they’ve been manipulated into helping the female narcissist exude terror on their victims.
Beta males are easily indoctrinated and you will see them come to the aid of the female narcissist when an alpha male or woman has exposed them for who they truly are.
It’s a sad thing to witness and no matter how much energy you spend trying to help the flying monkeys see thru the veil of the narcissist’s lies, they will continue to defend them.
If you identify yourself as a beta male and this article has elicited some emotions within you, it might be time to take a good hard look at what type of woman you are devoting your life towards. You might be under the direct influence of a psychopath predator.
There are many high quality women in the world that would appreciate an honest man who provides and cares for them but in order to attract a woman of this caliber, you must first become deserving of them.
The first step might just be to draw up the courage to cut all ties with the female narcissist you’ve been madly in love with and stand up for yourself and your moral values for these psychopath women have crushed and walked all over them.
ARE YOU A VICTIM OF A PSYCHOPATH NARCISSIST?
Narcissist abuse is a perpetual nightmare not many can wake up from. The anxiety, trauma and PTSD can last a lifetime if one does not properly cut ties with their psychopathic tormentor and follow through with a specific plan for recovery.
However, this path can be a mystery to most victims of narcissists who’ve been discarded and dismantled. That’s why I’ve put together a step-by-step guide that will show you how to take the first step in establishing boundaries between you and your abuser. Study this guide carefully and do exactly what it says, especially if you have been recently discarded and left to rot by your narcissist ex.
These were the first instructions my mentor gave me back when I too was in hell; gasping for air from the suffocating panic and bed ridden anxiety my psychopath ex had left me in. I followed his guidance to the tee and instantly felt life breathing back into my soul… as will YOU when you follow these easy steps.
The information in this guide is crucial to your mental health and recovery. Do not hesitate or risk another minute of your life drifting into oblivion at the hands of a psychopath narcissist.
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The narcissist is my husband’s girlfriend now. She took him from me our kids and our grandkids. He hold me she wanted to know everything about me his wife. I’ve done a lot of research on narcissists . She convinced him that he’s been in love with her for over 20 years although he was with me for 18 of those years. He was in love with me not her. She wasn’t even talked about ever in those 18 years. What can I do if anything it’s been almost 2 years.